Tired Of Scrolling Endless Content And Then Judging Yourself - Descript

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Welcome back to Talk Your Sass,

the podcast celebrating Black

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women living their best life.

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I'm your host, Jen Talks Tech, aka

Jennaba, your Chief Sass Officer,

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self proclaimed queen of the

selfless service movement, and I'm

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life architect, and we're on a

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We talk about Everything from living

intentionally, finding joy, failing,

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cute, you know, before all the growth

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Together, let's go on this journey,

living on purpose, in purpose,

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talking our sass, and taking up space.

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Now, this episode is super personal,

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not to say any of my other

episodes are not, but

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I just came back from Probably my

last conference of this year, my

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last conference in a while, like I am

putting myself on a conference course.

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knowledge, , detox.

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I am not going to any conferences unless

I'm speaking, unless I'm on a stage,

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unless I'm invited, flewed out, all that.

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And it's not because I'm against

conferences or I think they're a scam.

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I double down on self

investment, personal development.

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I am a strong believer and advocate

for all things personal development.

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I think that you should be having that.

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a budget in your life for self development

and growth and bettering yourself.

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I probably spent maybe 15 grand since

the end of the pandemic to now, probably

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more, maybe like 20 on self investment

and personal development out of my own

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pocket, not my job or any job or whatever.

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But I've just gotten to this point

where I actually have to take action.

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And do the things that I've learned

about, that I've paid for to learn, that

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I've paid to get in rooms with people

who I wanted to learn from, , paid,

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I paid to learn people's frameworks,

their proven process, their IP, and

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it's time to do something with it.

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It's time to use it and add on to what

I already have and develop my own IP.

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So thank This episode, we're

really talking about moving

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from , intentional action.

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And it's so easy to get caught up on

the internet, on socials, collecting

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endless podcasts, endless posts,

bookmarking them never to go back to them.

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It happens to the best of us.

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Look, it happens to me all the time.

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You get caught up spending hours

taking it all in, but you're not using

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it in any type of way or you're not

acting on it in any meaningful way.

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So we just get caught in this cycle of

consuming content over and over again

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and not taking any purposeful actions.

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You know, being just information

gathering, scrolling, addicted

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to consuming content and tips

and apply and never applying that

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knowledge and turning it into action.

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And I feel like the more and more we stay

in that space and in that cycle, we just

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become consumers and never producers.

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And I know personally, I want

to be on the production side.

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I want to be the one.

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Sharing and telling and educating

and influencing, not always

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being influenced to and sold to.

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So, yeah, I got to get my

life together before: 2024

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And this is why you're not going to

see me saying I went to any conferences

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right now or in the near future.

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tHis summer I knew

something was really wrong.

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I needed to take action.

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I was just...

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Feeling like super stuck and I really

couldn't unpack why I felt like I had

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all these plans information knowledge,

but I kept fumbling the bag on the action

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part and so Keely miracle who is awesome.

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If you guys aren't Instagram

go ahead and look her up

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I went to her summer

group therapy session.

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She is a Psychotherapist she

practiced nor new row Neuro intuitive

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methods and hypotherapy practices.

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She was having a session.

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I knew at this point in my, mental

health, mental wellness journey, like

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I'm, I'm obsessed about brain development,

cognitive behavior, like how your brain

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actually works, what you can do to.

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Have your brain in good health,

brain health practices, brain health

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development, growing new brain cells.

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Like I'm all about it.

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I'm super into it.

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, so when I saw her come across

my algo, I was tapped in.

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I did a 60 minute session.

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Um, she was having these

like summer sessions.

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I did a 60 minute session.

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She helped me unlock some.

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Things she gave me a read y'all

some things that I didn't even know

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that I still had or still needed

to do She basically told me while

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This trait is very good It's also

deeply rooted in not enoughness or

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me Subconsciously believing i'm not

enough Because I'm constantly seeking

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more and more information, knowledge,

learning, and it's never enough.

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Like, I'm, I'm all, like, I'm

pretty much addicted to it.

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Like, I, I, I, I gotta do it.

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Right?

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And there's a little bit

of self sabotage in there.

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Spillover from childhood.

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I grew up in a very achievement

heavy household and culture where

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everything is about achievement, and

everything is connected to, like,

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what you do and not who you are.

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As a person so i'm still getting over that

still healing working my way through that.

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At some point though With this not

enoughness, although it's like a it's

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a treat that I truly love about myself

at some point With it, with when, when

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I say that, I mean, like, as it relates

to learning and information hoarding

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and being a content snob, right?

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At some point, it manifests

as being overwhelmed and

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overloaded with information.

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It becomes a cognitive burden.

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And then that's why I was stuck.

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So it's a gift and a curse

because my love of knowledge, my

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ability to learn, consume, digest,

compartmentalize info very quickly.

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, I can learn anything y'all.

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Quick, it's figureoutable.

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It's one of the top things

I love about myself.

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So let me get into How I'm working

through this, getting through this

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and trying to balance the information

overload and overwhelm and not enoughness

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with still pursuit of knowledge

and just in time learning, right?

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I am going to be doing

practicing conscious consumption

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everybody loves content, videos,

podcasts, YouTube, whatever, right?

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Great content that make our lives

better, make us live our best life.

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But, you know, too much of it, it

could be an addiction, it's like,

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it's too much down the rabbit hole.

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Then you have too much information,

you don't know what to do with it.

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Now, let me give y'all some

signs, y'all know I always got.

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The tea, the facts, the data.

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Let me give you some signs that you

might be down a rabbit hole or you're

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in a trap of information overload.

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You're in a cycle.

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You frequently feel overwhelmed by all

of the emails, articles, videos, info,

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bookmarks, saved stuff that you have.

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Your list is endless.

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You keep adding to those podcasts,

newsletters, emails, content,

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but you don't go through them and

you don't do anything with them.

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You accumulate half read books and then

you bookmark them to check out later,

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you don't do it., Friends and family

complain that you're always glued to

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the screen reading something, but then,

again, you never do nothing with it.

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You're up all night binging content.

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Even though you should go to bed.

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You feel restless or anxious when you

have to take a break from consuming

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content and you constantly check your

feeds and refresh to see if like new news.

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New information, new

content is there all day.

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So if that sounds familiar, it's

time to talk about some balance and

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some boundaries on how you can start

practicing conscious consumption, right?

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So here's some tips that I'm doing

that you could use to get started on

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your conscious consumption journey.

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And then you can intentionally

and purposefully consume content.

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That aligns with your goals, , and

you can start actually taking action,

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once you consume all this content.

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So here we go, we're gonna have five tips.

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Identify your learning goals and know

what you're consuming the content for.

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Like, what is the purpose of

you consuming the content?

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What are you trying to get better at?

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What skill are you trying to develop?

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, what are you going to do

as a result of learning X?

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And once you identify that, then you can

focus all your reading and listening and

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learning around those things specifically.

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Number two, limit your browsing time.

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Set up those timers, alerts on your phone.

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And don't go over them.

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, this is one of my favorites.

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Number three, apply the Pareto principle.

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That's the 80 20 rule.

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So, focus on the 20 percent

content that you actually need.

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Four, take notes on everything.

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So those goals that you

identified in number one.

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Um, anything that you're learning, take

notes, summarize, rinse, repeat, um, this

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way you can have takeaways and insights

that apply to you personally and what

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you want to do, what your goal for your

learning goal is, , your learning outcome,

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and then you can refer back to it.

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And then number five, give yourself

specific actions that you're going to

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do after you learn whatever you learn

and consume whatever you consume so

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that you can apply what you learn.

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, the goal is to consume less

information overall, and we

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do this by being intentional.

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We do this by, and that,

that really gives us clarity.

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and empowers us in our learning, right?

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Because when you learn and then you

do, learning by doing is really like

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the fastest way to learn anything.

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So when you learn and do,

it's just a confidence boost.

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For yourself.

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It's like building reps and sets

with confidence with, being able to,

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you know, you know, they say if you

can't teach it and explain it to a

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kid, then you didn't really learn it.

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You don't really know it.

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So,

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All of this will just help us in.

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Reducing some of that information overload

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and then a bonus.

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I'm just going to tell y'all a little plan

that I put together to help me shift from

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mindless consumption to again, intentional

learning and some tools that I'm using.

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Of course, I have my

tech, which is Evernote.

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, I use Otter to help record when

I'm listening to podcasts or talks,

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it, it basically transcribes audio

so you can go back and listen to

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that later, pull out your insights.

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I use Evernote to take my notes.

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so yeah, get you some tech, get you

some tools that you could, uh, use

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for your learning and growth journey.

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But let's go, let's run down

these, this, uh, learning plan.

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So you really need to evaluate,

like I said, your current

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social media and online courses.

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Like, is this information

distracting you or helping you?

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I know personally, a lot of

the information that I have

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collected is a distraction.

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So one thing I did

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as soon as I came back from my last I went

in and audited all the emails that I get

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and I unsubscribed from so many people's

emails because their content It's going to

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distract me from doing what I need to do.

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Um, it's going to be like, learn

this, take this, start doing this.

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And it's like, nah, I haven't even

started doing that last thing.

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Like I'm not about to start doing nothing.

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So take an audit of the stuff that

you're consuming and understand

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why are you consuming it?

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And is it making you add on

more things for you to do?

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, we, we talked about setting clear goals

from the content that you're consuming.

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Like, are you trying to learn

digital marketing strategies

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to grow your business?

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Okay, well, then you can only

do like one thing at a time.

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You can't say like you're about to

learn digital marketing strategies, but

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then you're going to learn accounting

because you need to do your bookkeeping.

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Like you can only focus on one thing.

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So you got to block out the

noise of the other stuff.

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And focus on that learning the digital

marketing strategies to grow your

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business, if that's, you know, that

was just the example, but if that's

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your thing, and you can reverse

engineer that, so what do you, what's

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the steps that you need to take

really to learn the digital marketing

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strategies the fastest, , and do that?

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Another thing is like the communities,

that's also a distraction, like

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I'm in 50 million communities and

I also just started going through

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and removing myself from communities

that are not helping me to get to my

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current goals, and my current plans.

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The next thing is prioritizing.

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And removing the noise, focus on a, focus

on like one or two actionable courses,

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quality courses or conferences or whatever

it is that you're using, podcasts,

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whatever you're using to learn and really

tap into the ones that are giving you

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like actionable, tangible takeaways.

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Cause a lot of this stuff

is just noise and talk.

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And then lastly, apply

what you learned like.

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If you're not applying

it, then what's the point?

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Schedule time to actually

apply or do something which

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you learned or take action.

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Schedule time in your schedule to do that.

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A couple other things after setting

your browsing limits, setting

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your consumption limits, identify

like what times of day or what.

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Things send you into a spiral or a rabbit

hole and like remove that, try something

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else, try a different time of day, try,

you know, once you remove that content

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or following those people or getting out

that community, like how easy it is for

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you to get back on track, , you know,

identify that and be aware of that.

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Remove some of these apps, um,

remove some of this stuff from your

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browser that are distracting you.

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So let me know if this helped you, uh,

and you're, if, if you're over consumer

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tap it and let me know if, um, you're

going to implement some of these steps

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and it's, and it's helped you let me know.

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These are just some small tweaks and

little changes that are definitely

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going to make a big impact.

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So I'll let y'all know how it goes

to for me being more mindful of

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my habits, taking more action.

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, Being more of a producer than a consumer.

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Tap in and call me out, y'all.

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If y'all see me going to a conference,

please DM me or y'all see me saying,

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I'm doing this course, please.

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, cause I need accountability.

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If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe.

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Send me a DM.

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